Prepare – Enrich

Preparing for marriage or wanting to enrich your marriage?

 – discover the Strengths and Growth areas of your relationship

 – learn Assertiveness and Active Listening Skills

 – use Conflict Resolution Skills 

 – learn to Cope better with Stressors

 – focus on personal, couple and family Goals       

How the program works: The first step is to complete an  on-line questionnaire in order to provide a self-report description of your relationship.

22 areas are assessed and individual and couple responses in these areas are summarised in reports made available to the Facilitator: 

A. Significant Issues for Couples: 
    * Communication 
    * Conflict Resolution 
    * Partner Style & Habits 
    * Financial Management 
    * Leisure Activities 
    * Affection & Sexuality  
    * Family and Friends 
    * Idealistic Distortion 
    * Relationship Roles
    * Spiritual Beliefs 

B. Relationship Dynamics: 
    * Assertiveness 
    * Self Confidence 
    * Avoidance 
    * Partner Dominance 

C. Couple and Family Map: 
    * Closeness and Flexibility of Family-of-Origin 
    * Closeness and Flexibility of Couple Relationship/Marriage

D. Personality:
    * Social
    * Change
    * Organized
    * Pleasing
    * Emotionally Steady

You also answer questions about STRESS and, depending on your circumstances, answer questions about cultural/ethnic issues, interfaith/interchurch issues, parenting issues, cohabitation issues, forgiveness issues, commitment issues and issues arising from a previous marriage.

The next step is for you to return for a number of feedback sessions (as determined by you and the Facilitator). This process is aided by reports provided on-line to the Facilitator. You also receive a Couple’s Workbook that contains over 20 exercises designed to help you to respond to the feedback dialogue being encouraged by the Facilitator. 

There are six core couple exercises to complement the larger feedback process: 

   1. Sharing and Growth areas 
   2. Creating a Wish List using Assertiveness and Active Listening 
   3. Ten Steps for Resolving Conflict 
   4. Couple and Family Map – Mapping the Relationship 
   5. Personal Stress profile – Identifying the most critical issues
   6. Personality Exercise 
  Goals of the program The program has these goals:

   1. To explore Relationship Strengths and Growth Areas
   2. To learn Assertiveness and Active Listening Skills
   3. To learn how to resolve conflict
   4. To help the couple discuss their Family-of-Origin
   5. To help the couple cope better with stressors
   6. To focus on personal, couple and family goals